John DeMato - NYC Branded Lifestyle Portrait Photographer

NYC Branded Lifestyle Photographer - Blog

NYC Branded Lifestyle Portrait Photography Blog | Hi, I'm John DeMato, and I collaborate with thought leaders to create powerful, purposeful and authentic images. This is my blog where I talk all about the magic behind the portraits we create.

Bob and weave around toxic landmines


Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.

120718 PICZ - PORTRAITS-5906.JPG

In this case, less is definitely more.


What has your experience been with this process?

Easier said than done, right?

But, the reality of it is that if you don’t, you’re not going to show up in the world the way you want, and what’s the point of that?

Over the past couple years, I’ve done an enormous amount of housekeeping in all areas of my life. I removed myself from toxic relationships and a toxic mindset that compelled me to seek comfort in the familiar, despite the damage it caused.

I had to, otherwise I don’t know where I’d be right now.

Actually, I do know where I’d be - completely miserable, angry and resentful of everyone and everything around me.

Not exactly my idea of a good time.

And that’s why it’s important for you to be mindful of the potential toxic landmines that exist along your path to prosperity. Set an intention that your best life, whatever that looks like, is possible if you sidestep and swerve around these potential distractions.

The first step is awareness.

See what thoughts, opinions and relationships are causing friction and set an intention to distance yourself from them all. Awareness is such an important step, and in many cases, you are made aware of these toxic relationships from those in your inner circle, so, allow yourself the chance to hear others as they look out for your best interests.

The next step is compassion.

Don’t beat yourself up about it, you’re a human being and have permission to make mistakes and misstep. You also have permission to move on from anything and everything that weighs you down.

As you find yourself backing away from something that no longer serves you, be mindful of how you talk to yourself in the process. No name-calling or lobbing shots at yourself from the cheap seats - what you tell yourself is just as, if not more, powerful than what others say to you.

The final step is care.

What are the steps that you will take to permanently rid yourself of these crosses that you’re bearing on a day-to-day basis? How will you set a course for a flourishing future?

And who will be coming along for the ride to support you?

It all begins with the desire to make change - are you willing to start now?

PS - For those of you who aren’t in the know, I mail out these blogs 3x a week, and lemme tell you, they’re a real party, so, if you’d like to get in on this, sign up for it here and I’ll throw in a free gift for you, because I care, :)